Hello? Is anyone out there? I feel like the last man on earth; I Am Legend 
style in fact. Mostly, that’s my fault. To say I’ve been distracted would be an understatement. Between the stress of the old job and leaving it and working up at the new place I haven’t had time for much in the virtual world.
Your mind is the most potent tool in your sexual arsenal. Bar none. Whether you know it sub-consciously or not, it pretty much decides what your body does. Can’t get it up? Well, your mind’s probably at fault. Can’t keep it up? Ehh, that too. Can’t quite get your partner to the end game? Blame it on the mind, whether they mean it or not.
Much of it really is sub-conscious though. If you’re tired things probably won’t work as well. If you’re stressed well, stress is a bitch. Stress is the mood killer. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been hornier than a rabbit in mating season and then I go to work. Whoops, count that mood gone.
Generally takes one hell of an event or a good amount of work on my girls part to get me going. Which sucks, for both of us. Lately, works been stressing me out to hell and gone and I can already see it impacting my sexual levels. They just aren’t there. It’s annoying but there really isn’t a fix I guess.
Other than a vacation.
Men have an issue. No, it’s most likely not one of the ten billion that spring instantly to mind when I state that. Rather this is one specific issue that’s vexing, frustrating, intoxicating and just plain strange all bundled in one. You see, we have an issue with the ass.
I can see a lot of gay guys throwing their hands in the air and saying "yup," or even women who maybe have tried to experiment with their men saying "no shit!" or even just the regular men in the audience going "well no, I don’t thank you." But, you’re wrong. We do.
I’d dare you to go out on the street right now and ask a random sampling of men if, one, they’ve ever had anal sex with a woman (or if they’re gay, with a man) and two if they want to. I wouldn’t lay bets on the first part but on the second I’d more than lay money down and probably making a killing on them saying yes. Now, ask them if they’d let something be stuck in their own ass…
Hello? Anyone still there? Bueller? Bueller?
I was taking a gander at AlwaysArousedGirl and her latest post was rather amusing. Apparently, she works for EdenFantasy’s doing live chat support and she posted some of her most used comments. I couldn’t help but chuckle at quite a few of them. Reminds me of the list we made at work one day as to things techs say that everyone else would take plain wrong.
Sorry, who is fucking whom in the ass?
Licking it should be just fine.
Trust me on this one. Really.
I recommend taking a look at it, as well as her site.
Well the move was successful. I figured with the start of a new month might as do something completely new for this blog. So I bit the bullet and bought the domain and the hosting. I won’t feel as constrained now about what I should, and shouldn’t, post about on a shared hosting environment.
I have alot of plans for this Eros (in no way related to this Eros) so we’ll have to see what all I can actually manage to do with it.
The lack of updates for the past week plus hasn’t exactly been intentional. Due to some issues at work and home I haven’t really had the time, or the inclination to sit down and update. Hopefully that’ll change in the next few days.
Say your girl friend works a job that she doesn’t really enjoy that much. The pay is shitty, the customers are annoying and the work is mind numbing. Say she comes home on her lunch break tired, annoyed and crotchety.
Want to turn her mood around in a heartbeat? Give her a quickie.
No, I don’t mean fuck her till she’s blue in the face from screaming. I don’t mean a slow, sensual go. Just strip her pants off, drop her on the bed and go down on her. Start it slow, or fast, or whatever pace you want. Just get her going and make it all about her. Whether she cums or not her entire mood and day will be turned around. She’ll leave with a smile on her face and her mind in that happy place for the rest of the day.
Sure, there’s science behind sex as a mood changer but really it comes down to this: she’ll feel loved, wanted, and pleased. Its a three for. Then when she gets home, it’ll be all about you. Not a bad way to end the day
I think, if anything, there’s one simple rule about sex: it’s all about pleasure. This can be taken a couple of ways. The first would be that it’s all about the finale, the coup de grace: the orgasm. It could also be taken as sex is all about pleasing both partners, whether its male and female, male on male, or some other combination.
Too many people however focus on the first part. They fixate on making the other person cum. I always love when the other person asks when its all over “did you cum?” Well, maybe, but is that even all that important? Sex is fun. Or at least, it should be. Its not a job, its not a profession (well, to some it is) where the end result is a messy ending.
Its taken me many years to realize that. To come to grips with the fact that yes, an orgasm is damn good fun but my soul goal isn’t to drive for it to the exclusion of all else. Sometimes you just can’t get there, no matter what you do. Sometimes you’re too tired or your minds somewhere else. Sometimes she’s too dry, or too sore, or too obsessed with work. If that’s the case, then take it slow. Slow it down to the point where things just feel good. Relax, and enjoy the feelings. Yes, you might not cum, but that’s life.
I use to ask my significant others each time, every time if they came. I think after a while they got annoyed with it. If they did, they were happy. If they didn’t, most of the times they were still pretty damn happy. They enjoyed the experience, they enjoyed the fact that I enjoyed it. In the end that’s what matters. The enjoyment of the moment.
If we were meant to cum every time, god would have given us one hell of a big red button labeled “instant ignition.”
Where would the fun be in that?
As I say in my About page this is a type of website I’ve been tempted to create for a long time. Many of my friends have used me as a sounding board when it came to sex. Whether personal issues (am I gay?) to asking my advice on all sorts of things that are normal, or not, true, or not. I’m no sex god, nor would I want to be (seems it’d get pretty lonely) but I’m fairly good at what I do and I’ve seen (and done) alot.
I’ve also loved, and in turn, been loved more than many people my age should be. Obviously, the definition of love changes as a person grows older. When you’re young, and stupid, you feel that having sex and having someone to to prom with is love. As you age, you find that love comes to be something much deeper, much harder to define. It’s no longer all about sex, though thats still chocolate icing on the cake, but rather it becomes more about the person being there. Waking up next to someone and just spending the rest of the day in their arms, doing nothing but cuddling, snuggling, and occasionally having a cup of hot coffee brought to you when you awake after the tenth nap of the day.
Yes, its sappy, and yes, there’s going to be quite a few posts like that here. I’ll look at old relationships, new ones, and could have beens. I’ll also post porn, things that turn me on, that titilate me, things that I’d like to do.
The point is, I really don’t know what all I’m going to do with this site. It’s going to be an exploration, a journey towards Eros and all that entails. Maybe you, fair reader, will even stay with me
